It’s very common that people usually diagnosed with fibromyalgia. I am suffering from fibromyalgia. I can’t explain my sufferings because of it. These are general sentences people usually say. They go to different doctors, psychiatrists and related people, their pain increases day by day. Once it happens then you feel that now you got that disease and your pain is prove of it. Some are afraid of it. It’s really a thing to be afraid when somebody comes to you and tell you that you cannot be cured because your disease is in curable. You will surely feel sucked like it’s now over to live any more. Your response can be different but the thing remains is that now what to do? What should be done after getting know about disease. When you come to know that you are suffering from this you will start your path. Your path is of five stages. These can be very near and same to level of grief and death by Dr. Elisabeth Kubler Rose. Although fibromyalgia (FM) does not cause loss of life, it does bring about a loss of our former lifestyle. It is both normal and necessary for you to grieve any significant loss. There is no set timeframe for you to go through each stage. You may go through one stage very quickly or even skip a stage completely. You may linger in another stage for a while. You may move back and forth between stages. The crucial thing is to keep moving. While it’s important to give yourself permission to experience each stage as it comes, don’t allow yourself to get stuck in any one stage.
These stages are following:
- Denial / Fear / Isolation
Initial stage starts with huge feelings of fear and loneliness. You may think that may be doctor did not check you well. He misunderstood your symptoms. You can’t believe that you are suffering from this issue. Your surrounding may have no information regarding this all. So at that time you start realizing that nobody is with you. So you need to gather information about it as much as you can.
It’s the stage when you feel so much fed up from many things. Life changes a lot of yours. This is the stage when you always take people negative. You think they all are against you. The most productive way to deal with anger is to channel it into determination. Set your mind to finding a treatment plan that is most helpful to you.
At this point you may try to “strike a deal” with God. Maybe if you’re good enough, God will make this go away. The important thing to understand at this stage is that FM is not a punishment for something you’ve done wrong. It is one of many diseases or conditions that are simply a part of life.
When the reality of your condition sets in, you will probably experience some degree of depression. You realize that your lifestyle is changing dramatically. You may no longer be able to do all the things you’ve always enjoyed. Your once hopeful future now seems like a big blank space with a gigantic question mark at the end of it. It’s perfectly normal to feel depressed over these changes. Who wouldn’t? This is often the stage that’s most difficult to move through. Depression brings with it a feeling of hopelessness and a substantial decrease in energy. You may feel like going to bed, pulling the covers over your head and waiting for the world to go away. You wonder how you can possibly face the rest of your life in pain. The first thing to remember is that you are going to have some good days and some bad days. The more you learn how to pace yourself, what activities trigger a flare and which treatment options help you the most, the more good days you will have. If your depression is severe or you are feeling suicidal, please talk with your doctor. You may have a chemical imbalance that can be helped with medication. Your life may not be what you expected but it can be good. When all is said and done, it may actually turn out to be better than you imagined.
- Acceptance/ Re-evaluation
It’s not like you are leaving or something. It’s just acceptance that yes you are in problem, you start accepting that pain, you start accepting that feeling and you start accepting that yes you are different. You have mental problem which makes you alone , a problem which is difficult to understand for other people. Many things in life will catch your eye or spark your interest but only a few will capture your heart. Now it’s time to focus on what captures your heart. Pursue your passion. Let the other things go. Spend your time and limited energy on what is most important to you. There is no “right” way to grieve. There is no timetable. Look at each stage as a learning process and a step toward personal growth. Then finally, once you’ve passed through that final stage of acceptance, you can begin to manage your FM instead of letting your FM manage you. You will find your life to be more rewarding and full of purpose than you ever dreamed possible! Each of you is a unique and special individual, and you will progress through this grieving process in your own way and at your own pace.VIA adda